Saturday, July 11, 2009

The Balancing Act

It started off great this week.

Monday at the gym for some cardio.

Tuesday an early morning swim followed by 1.5 hours of yard work after I dropped off my child for summer camp. I thought I had accomplished so much tuesday morning just before the real heat set in. I took a shower, but then I found that I was so tired! I struggled to stay awake for a few hours to do some work before I had to pick up my daughter.

At 1:45pm I picked her up from summer camp. By then, I was exhausted. Next came 5 more hours of running around to keep her occupied. At 7pm, I trudged home. By then, I was dazed and confused.

Thank goodness my husband was home. I passed off my daughter to her and vegged. I put on a DVD - a real doozy of a chick flick (He's just not into you). I then just laid there like a bump on the log watching the boob tube. Oh, what luxury! I had not been able to do this in quite some time! Two hours later, I felt like I had recovered a bit. I could then think clearly, at least.

Wednesday - rest day. Felt good.

Thursday - yard work for one hour. I told myself not to overdo it, especially in the heat. Did 4 hours of work for my biz.

Friday - totally slacked off on exercising. Did 4 more hours of work for my biz.

Saturday - today - back on the wagon with a 4 mile run.

Now that I write down what I did, it looks somewhat balanced. But, when I'm living it, it feels like I'm really slacking off in everything. If I'm not working on my biz, I feel like a slacker! If I'm not exercising regularly, I'm a slacker! If I'm not social networking, I'm a slacker! When my yard is a mess, I'm a slacker. When my house is messy, I"m a slacker!

Then, I have to stop myself...

I'm a parent and ....ugh...a housewife. Now, my life is all about mastering the balancing act. More importantly, learning to become satisfied with what I can realistically accomplish in a day or a week...that's the hardest part.

It's about taking stock and doing some hard line prioritizing.

Priority #1: care for and spend time with family. Essentially 6 to 8 hours a day spent here.

Priority #2: get just enough exercise to stay sane. This essentially means to devote 1 hour of exercise a day and no more, since any more makes me too tired to do priority #1.

Priority #3: Housewifey chores that have absolutely have to get done . This means - keep clean clothes at hand, wash dishes so ants don't come, and sweep when I step of lots of crumbs, cook...a little. That's about all I can do in 1 to 2 hours a day.

Priority #4: biz here and there. I need to be happy with a solid 1 to 2 hours a day.

Everything else is Priority #5. And believe me, there are tons of stuff in this category. Everything from mowing the lawn, all other housework, filing the mountains of paperwork in my office, any social stuff, doing social networking, education, relaxing, etc. The list goes on and on. This is my biggest hurdle. There's just too much here to do in 2 to 3 hours a day that I have left.

So, as I'm writing this, I realize that I have to work more on prioritizing. But, wait...that's in priority #5, right? I'm going to work on priority #4 now :-)


Kaolee Hoyle said...

It always seem like there's so many things to do and so little time!

My advice is to enjoy the moment and give it your all and then move on to the next task.

Jules said...

"I'm a parent and ....ugh...a housewife."

And a business owner!!

I hear you - it's SOOO hard to balance everything. I feel the same way since I'm usually traveling a few days a week. It makes it so hard to keep up with exercising, house cleaning, laundry, friends, everything. But, you just did a triathlon so you're doing something right!

Better to be as well-balanced as possible as opposed to focusing on only one thing and shutting all others out.

Petraruns said...

Your life! My life! It's not easy. Don't be so hard on yourself - you're doing a good job. Enjoy the moment - definitely. And be proud - you're doing very well..

jeanne said...

you are doing GREAT! I think you totally have your priorities in order, and being a housewife is a noble profession! really. Be PROUD of yourself!

ShirleyPerly said...

Yes, who would have thought that we'd both be housewives!!

I actually hired someone to do my yard while on vacation. It was hard at first to let it go (I'm very picky about things around my house getting done a certain way) but now find it a relief. In fact, I might even do it again even when not on vacation just to get some extra rest as my iron tris get closer. Priorities!

Donna said...

Hey there! I just came across your blog while searching for info on the hills of the sweet and twisted tri. Just wanted to say, "hi" and give you some props. Be as proud of yourself as you would be a friend in the same position as you! Good Luck!

peter said...

Oh, I'm getting dizzy. Your weeks are filled, that's for sure. It's hard with a young one around. I'm glad you're able to get some runs in for yourself. I did a four mile run yesterday, and a four mile run today, and while that's not a lot, I feel much better.

Susan said...

Amen, sister!!!

lizzie lee said...

After reading several blogs related to the HEAT, I decided not to complain about the HEAT we've had for the last month and a half... between 75 and 85...

I know, I know... but it is hot for us Seattleites....